We all make mistakes but when we have the responsibility of another human it is always better to be careful, as they say “better be safe than sorry.” Here are few mistakes you need to avoid if you are a new mother.
Overestimating your abilities
You might be good at multitasking but not when you have a baby. Once you give birth it is next to impossible to get back to your job right after unless you have someone else taking care of your newborn. Usually mothers stay back because newborn needs them for breast milk. So don’t even think of getting back to work until your infant is at least three months, when it is safe to put him/her on formula. Most of the offices do give three to six months maternity leave so this will not be a problem. Similarly do not assume that just because you aren’t working you will have plenty of free time. Getting into the schedule of the new born can be quite difficult. According to the baby sleep specialist a newborn sleeps 16 hours a day, so you need to constantly nurse your infant to ensure he/she gets adequate sleep.
Neglecting your better half
This is something which happens with 90% of the couples. Once you get a baby the mother spends most of her time with the child and barely gives any attention to her spouse which could cause a problem in their relationship. You should try to get your newborn to bed earlier so you can give some time to your husband. Similarly all the husbands or new fathers should take equal responsibility in looking after the child. According to baby sleep consultant, in order to look after the infant the mother also needs her sleep. So once the baby has been fed, husbands should look after the infant and let the mother take some rest. Remember it is not only a woman’s responsibility to look after the baby; the man has to also play a part in parenting.
This is a common mistake which many new mothers do. They take parenting too hard on themselves, this is bad because after giving birth you go through a major lifestyle change and if in this phase you don’t look after yourself, you could get into postpartum depression. Take things easy, you could hire a nanny to look after the baby which will reduce your work to a great extent. Also take turns with your husband in nursing the infant. It is important to take care of yourself both physically and mentally to be a great mother to your baby.
If you avoid the above mistakes you are likely to embrace this new stage in your life.